Unicorn Bar strives to create a safe, joyful, and inclusive environment where queer folks of all identities and allies can come together as a community to connect, express themselves, dance wildly, explore different music and ideas, or simply have a drink at the bar. We are committed to cultivating an environment that prioritizes inclusion, safety, and compassion. As soon as you walk through the door, we want you to know that you belong and that we will take care of you–

regardless of gender, sexuality, race, national origin, religion, ability, body size/appearance, profession, or socioeconomic status. In order to create that kind of a space, a set of ground rules is mandatory. 

• At Unicorn Bar, everyone is expected to treat each other with kindness and respect. This applies to the friends you came in with, the folks you will meet here, the staff serving you, performers, and the physical space itself. 
• Be mindful of the language you are using. Use gender-inclusive language. If you’re not sure of someone’s pronouns, ask before assuming.
• Ask before touching. You may be touchy-feely, but not everyone is. This sounds like, “Can I dance with you?” “Can I give you a hug?” “Do you want to kiss?” etc.
• Keep an open mind. At Unicorn Bar, you will see and hear about lifestyles, identities, languages, bodies, etc. that differ from your own. Let go of whatever judgements you may have and allow yourself to appreciate the diversity and learn about someone else’s story. 
• Keep an eye out for your fellow patrons. Even if you do not know them, we all have a moral responsibility to be excellent to one another. 

• Absolutely no harmful language or behavior. This includes intimidation, harassment, abuse, discrimination, intentional misgendering, demeaning gestures, or derogatory speech. It is unacceptable to use harmful or prejudiced language in relation to gender, sexuality, race, national origin, religion, ability, body size/appearance, profession, socioeconomic status, or other identity markers. 
• No touching without first asking for consent.
• No physical violence, or inciting violence on others.
• No challenging or questioning someone’s identity, self-chosen labels, or relationship—even if they conflict with your own views (i.e. differing definitions of “lesbian,” “queer,” “bi/pan,” “trans,” “non-binary,” “poly/nonmonogany,” etc.) When someone tells you who they are, believe them.
• Reserve the staring for staring contests. Whether it may be from attraction, interest, or judgement, staring or unwelcome sexual attention is rude and makes people feel uncomfortable. 
• No “chasers.” The ogling or fetishizing of  transgender people is not welcome. Trans folks are humans, not a fantasy to be fulfilled.
• Avoid gratuitous sexual/crude language or images unless given consent from others. Even if you think it’s funny or interesting, it’s probably inappropriate.
• Not taking “No” for an answer is unacceptable. Take rejection with grace and respect their decision. Similarly, if someone tells you that a behavior of yours makes them feel uncomfortable, respectfully give space. 
• No overserving alcohol or serving folks under 21. Respect the bar staff’s decision if you are cut off for the night. We care about your safety! 

If you see something that doesn’t adhere to our code of conduct, tell the staff! We will take care of it from there. We believe in a restorative justice-based approach to navigating conflict and will address inappropriate behaviors proactively, firmly, and kindly. Those who violate these rules will be expected to change their behavior immediately. If they refuse or continue to violate our code of conduct, they will be told to leave. Impact will be prioritized over intention. 

You can also always send us an email through the form on this site. We want to know what is going on so we can take action to remedy the situation. 

Thank you for taking the time and care to read our Code of Conduct. Our hope is that by reading these expectations, everyone coming to our space is choosing to OPT IN, which will help shape Unicorn Bar into the safe space it always should be! This is a  living document that may change over time as we continuously reassess the safety needs of our community. Together, through this community agreement, we can hold each other accountable to make sure that everyone at Unicorn feels safe to be their authentic self.